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Planning a funeral - make your wishes known

Everyone is different. We all have a different story and path we take in life, so when it comes to funerals, why should this day be any different and not bare any resemblance to how we live our individual lives?

You only have to look at people within the media to see how they’ve planned their funeral and the weird and wonderful ways of making a statement.

Joan Rivers in her book, 'Rivers' sums it up fantastically:

"Dying of natural causes is boring. It's the grand finale, act three, the eleven o'clock number — make it count. If you're going to die, die interesting! Is there anything worse than a boring death? I think not.”    

She also made sure that everyone knew that when she died she wanted her funeral to be ‘a huge showbiz affair with lights, cameras, action.’ “I want publicists making a scene! I want it to be Hollywood all the way. I don’t want some rabbi rambling on; I want Meryl Streep crying, in five different accents. I don’t want a eulogy; I want Bobby Vinton to pick up my head and sing ‘Mr. Lonely.’ I want to look gorgeous, better dead than I do alive. I want to be buried in a Valentino gown and I want Harry Winston to make me a toe tag. And I want a wind machine so that even in the casket my hair is blowing just like Beyonce’s.”

Too Fast to Live, Too Young to Die

Sex Pistol's Svengali Malcolm McLaren had the same shock element at his funeral as he portrayed in his hey day. A horse-drawn carriage carrying his black coffin spray-painted with the words "Too fast to live, too young to die". And a double-decker bus destined for "Nowhere" and decorated with one of McLaren's favourite sayings: "Cash from chaos." Music from the punk band the Sex Pistols also blared out loudly.

Horse-drawn hearse
Horse-drawn hearse

Now you may not want anything that extreme, but making your wishes known in advance for your funeral or memorial service is important however big or small. You may say I’ll speak to my family nearer the time and tell them what I want; which is always a good thing to do, but not everyone has the opportunity to do this especially if things happen suddenly.

A Prepaid Funeral Plan

A way to make your wishes known is with a Prepaid Funeral Plan from Dignity. A Prepaid Funeral Plan is one of the best ways to ensure your funeral is taken care of and paid for in advance. A plan enables you to personalise your funeral as much or as little as you want. By adding personal touches, like a favourite reading, what you want people to wear or the music you want played, you can give your loved ones the reassurance that everything is being done the way you want, taking the burden away from them at what is already a distressing time. You can add and amend personal requests at any time, without charge.

Find out about personalising your Prepaid Funeral Plan from Dignity.